Dear Families,

Self-esteem is the foundation of a child’s emotional well-being. It shapes how they view themselves, interact with others, and approach challenges in and out of the classroom. At the primary school level, children are forming core beliefs about who they are—and we, as the adults around them, play a key role in nurturing a strong and positive self-image.

Why Does Self-Esteem Matter?

Children with healthy self-esteem:

• Are more willing to try new things
• Handle setbacks with more resilience
• Interact confidently with peers and adults
• Feel proud of what they can do and who they are

The good news is, self-esteem is something we can build together every day.

Simple Techniques to Boost Self-Esteem in the Home and Classroom:

Catch the Good - Make a habit of pointing out effort, kindness, and progress.

“I noticed how you helped your friend with their bag. That was really thoughtful.”

Praise should be specific and focus on effort over outcomes.

Let Them Take the Lead - Offer children chances to make small choices.

“Would you like to read this book or that one?” or “Do you want to set the table or feed the pet tonight?”

Making decisions builds a sense of control and responsibility.

Talk About Mistakes as Learning - Normalise mistakes as part of learning. Share your own small setbacks and how you handled them.

“I forgot my keys today—so I made a list to help me remember next time!”

This helps children understand that failing doesn’t mean ‘I’m bad’—it means ‘I’m growing.’

Set Achievable Goals - Support your child in setting small, reachable goals:

“This week I’m going to practice tying my shoes.”

Celebrate effort and progress, no matter how small.

Model Positive Self-Talk - Children learn how to speak to themselves by listening to the adults around them. Try to avoid harsh self-criticism in front of them, and instead model kindness.

“That was tricky—but I’m proud I didn’t give up.”

Create a Safe Space to Talk - Ask open-ended questions that invite reflection.

“What made you feel proud today?” or “Was there anything that felt tricky?”

Just being heard can make a child feel valued and understood.

Building self-esteem is not about giving constant praise or protecting children from every difficulty—it’s about helping them believe they are capable, worthy, and loved just as they are. Let’s keep working together to create an environment where every child can thrive.

Warmly,
Amelie Nicholson
Student and Family Counsellor